Putting a loved one in a nursing home is a difficult decision regardless of the circumstances. In the case of Alzheimer’s, most research shows that at some point in the progression of the disease a nursing home becomes the right decision for the family in New Vernon. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, there are nearly 2 million people currently living in some form of nursing home. Over 90% of these residents are over 65 years old and most require 24 hour supervision due to some physical limitation or dementia.
Caring For Alzheimer's - Take Care of Yourself, Too!
Alzheimer’s disease is an extremely sad and difficult condition to work with. This disease is very difficult on the family members in New Vernon. Just thinking that as the days slip by your aging loved one will soon become more and more distant. This can be very depressing and an emotional time for most family caregivers. Besides the common emotion of depression, most family members often feel angry, frustrated, and even at a loss for words.
Is it Alzheimer's Or is it CRS
I think that, as a group, seniors are some of the most surveyed folks out there. Being in the senior home care business I am more acutely aware of the surveys then the normal person and like to see how the results of those surveys match up to my personal experiences.
More times then not the results do not go beyond the numbers to the underlying cause and effect or at least the feelings of those being surveyed. In a recent survey it was reported that over 80% of seniors would rather live out the rest of their days in the own home and not in an assisted living or similar facility. That's really not breaking news but it started me thinking about why the seniors are so motivated to stay in their home.
I started doing some research by going over my notes from prospective client families, care recipients and also our wonderful care givers. So I have come up with seven reasons why seniors want to stay in their home. These seven do not have real defined borders and have branches or even roots in other reasons.
- Comfort. This reason really bleeds over into the others as well but the senior is comfortable in the house where they have lived for many years. The TV is just the right distance from their chair and doesn't have any reflections on it, they know the HVAC system and where it needs to be for comfort, they have spent years getting the furniture the right size and in the right place. So why should they leave.
- Safety. Now at first glance this might be a reason for going into assisted living but most seniors feel safer at home. They know the sounds of the neighborhood, when neighbors come home and when they leave and most can move around their house and even their yard blindfolded. We have a 94 year old client who is almost totally blind and lives by herself but she knows where everything in her house is, even her meds. She has her morning meds in one location and the bottles are arranged in a specific way and the evening meds are in another location. She feels safe in her environment.
- Memories. They have experienced the entire fabric of life in their home. Birthdays, holidays, including dry turkeys, disappointments and celebrations, medical issues, retirement, aging and death. The home has been the foundation of all that has gone on and they don't want to walk away.
- Independence. From pre-teen years we all strive to achieve independence and now that the senior has had it for so many years they guard it with all the vigor they can muster. If the car keys were taken from the senior earlier then this is the last vestige of independence. Note to family: rescinded driving privileges will be the biggest fight but the home is second.
- Cost. Assisted living expenses can run as much as $4,000 plus a month so staying in one's home can be quite a savings. Add to that the possibility of a reverse mortgage and their monthly bills can be reduced but things like a gardener, pest control, etc have to be managed.
- Network. This term might be used with younger folks but even my 94 year old client has a network...a social network of neighbors and friends who check on her and bring her treats. Many times these social networks are shattered when the senior moves to assisted living. My mother-in-law who lives with us still talks about neighbors she had ten years ago. Don't discount these social connections.
- Family. Many times the family home is just that and there are extra bedrooms for visiting family members. Children of the senior can visit and bring their kids and now you have three generations staying connected in a home environment, not just visiting grandma at an assisted living facility.
Back in the day there were only two choices for seniors and that was stay in their home or live with the children. Now there are so many more choices up to and including resort like living where you eat all your meals in a nice restaurant environment. The choice we made was to have my mother-in-law live with us, it just made sense and we felt better about it. But the transition wasn't easy, especially for mom. But over the years she has settled in and knows exactly how many steps it is from her room to the bathroom.
It is important to hold family meetings with the senior included to discuss how it will work and if additional in home help will be needed for a portion of the day. In home care can make everyone more at ease if it is decided that the senior will be allowed to stay in their home.
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Considerations for a Day Care
Adult daycare is for elderly people who are no longer able to take care of themselves. This daycare will provide a good atmosphere, social setting and best supervision to them.
Most Daycare Centers are sponsored by the Federal or state government, public, churches, and other volunteer groups. There are also some daycare centers that are owned and managed by a firm which can also be private centers.
The Organization of United Cerebral Palsy Foundation (UCP) is offering programs that can be both for residential and for adult daycare in some parts in the country to help people who suffer from cerebral palsy or have other mental and physical disabilities.
Activities in an Adult Daycare
Elderly should be comfortable and must enjoy their stay in daycare. Different facilities must be available and some interesting activities should be done to entertain them. When looking for an adult daycare center, you should know their daily activities and know if it is possible for an adult to do these. The Recreation Director is the one in-charge for initiating the activities to be done for the whole day and making sure that no elderly will only watch television all day long. Recreational and other social outlets are also provided for older persons who are disabled.
Inquire about social and entertaining activities in a daycare. Most of the seniors have talents and these talents can also serve as their hobbies too. Different programs should be formed which include arts, gardening and music and others also include pets. Programs and activities should be full of fun and interesting. These must boost the energy of seniors. Physical exercises can also be added to daily activities. This information should be gathered upon touring the facilities of adult daycare.
Stimulation and lighting should be adequate for the senior. Their vision problems can lead for some minor accidents or can also be major accidents in daycare so adequate lighting is very important. Replace bulbs that are not functioning especially any burned out light bulbs and make sure that lights must have same wattage. Be sure to have lighting in stairs, closets and restrooms where accidents occur often. It is very important to provide enough lighting when they are doing their hobbies and especially while they are reading. It has been observed that seniors love to read newspapers so provide them a magnifier. Losing vision tend to make them decline from any activities or programs and it is really a heartbreak for them.
Check the floors if it is safe for elders
The flooring is the most widely used of elders in a daycare whether in rooms, kitchens and other rooms for doing the activities and programs. It is best to check the floors if it is safe for walking for seniors and that no any polish is applied on those which can be slippery. Check also the tile floors if there are more broken tiles. There should be no rugs that can cause a senior to slip down and will be hurt that can lead them from suffering in wheelchair when there are not able to carry themselves to walk. There are also some rugs that are available in the department stores that have a non-skid back to avoid any accidents.